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Living Unmasked: How to Overcome ADHD Masking and Be Yourself

Updated: Jul 12

We all know that living with ADHD comes with its unique challenges, one of which is often overlooked: masking.

Masking involves hiding one’s ADHD symptoms through learned behaviors, often as a coping mechanism to navigate social situations and avoid judgment. In this blog post, we’ll delve into what ADHD masking is, its impact on individuals, and effective strategies for coping and embracing authenticity.

What is ADHD Masking?

ADHD masking is a phenomenon where individuals with ADHD conceal their symptoms by adopting behaviors that mimic “neurotypical norms”. This can of course look different for everyone but it often includes suppressing impulses, hyperactivity, and inattentiveness, and putting on a facade of attentiveness, organization, and composure. Masking can manifest in various forms, such as staying quiet to avoid drawing attention, overcompensating for forgetfulness, or suppressing stimming behaviors.

Here are some examples of ADHD Masking:
  • Staying quiet in social settings to avoid interrupting or seeming hyperactive.

  • Constantly checking belongings to prevent losing them, masking executive function challenges.

  • Pretending to be interested in conversations or activities to fit in.

  • Overpreparing for tasks to compensate for difficulties with time management.

  • Avoiding eye contact or fidgeting to appear more composed.

Impact of ADHD Masking:

Masking ADHD symptoms can have profound effects on an individual’s well-being:

  • Delayed diagnosis: Masking can lead to underrecognition of ADHD symptoms, delaying diagnosis and access to appropriate support and treatment.

  • Mental health implications: The effort to maintain a facade can contribute to increased anxiety, depression, and feelings of inadequacy.

  • Emotional exhaustion: Constantly suppressing natural tendencies and emotions can lead to emotional exhaustion and burnout.

  • Strained relationships: Masking may strain relationships, as others may not understand the internal struggles of individuals with ADHD, leading to feelings of isolation and alienation.

Coping with ADHD Masking:

While masking may provide short-term relief, it’s essential to develop healthy coping strategies and embrace authenticity:

  • Self-awareness: Recognize and acknowledge your masking behaviors, understanding their impact on your well-being.

  • Seek support: Work with a therapist or an ADHD Coach who specialize in ADHD for guidance and support in managing symptoms and navigating challenges.

  • ADHD Coaching: Consider ADHD coaching to develop personalized strategies and tools for managing ADHD symptoms effectively. Coaches can provide structure, accountability, and support tailored to your unique needs. You can find more information about my coaching here.

  • Connect with others: Join the ADHD Group Coaching Group or communities where you can share experiences, receive validation, and learn from others facing similar struggles.

  • Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and embrace your authentic self, recognizing that ADHD is a part of who you are, not something to be ashamed of.

For years, I struggled with masking my ADHD symptoms, constantly feeling like I had to hide my quirks and struggles to fit in. It wasn’t until I sought therapy and ADHD Coaching and connected with others in ADHD support groups that I realized I wasn’t alone. Embracing my authentic self, ADHD and all, has been a journey of self-discovery and empowerment, allowing me to live more openly and authentically.

ADHD masking is a common yet often misunderstood aspect of living with ADHD. By understanding the nature of masking, its impact, and effective coping strategies, individuals can navigate their ADHD journey with greater resilience and authenticity. Remember, you are not alone, and there is support available to help you unmask your true self and thrive with ADHD.

If you're looking for a supportive environment to explore these issues, consider joining our ADHD group coaching sessions. Our coaching program provides a safe space to connect with others, share experiences, and develop strategies to live authentically and confidently with ADHD.

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